Picture this: You finally have free time so you scroll through Instagram and TikTok only to realize that 2 hours have passed and you are drained and feel bad about yourself. Sound familiar? You may look at someone’s content and start to compare yourself to where they are today. She sounds so confident. I could never do what she does. But let me tell you something. The only difference between you and someone else is that they didn’t let people’s opinions impact their choices. You can’t expect perfection right away. Let people think you’re cringe!

In episode 116 of this week’s podcast, I begin to unpack different ways that have helped me care less about what people think of me. I hope this brings you the same comfort and realization it has for me.

What have you held yourself back from?

Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t because you’re scared of what other people might think about you? Maybe you wanted to start a podcast, execute a new business idea, or even begin to create more video content but you feel self-conscious. My message to you is to stop letting people rob you of the life experiences that you’re supposed to have.

If you are ready for change then keep reading!

5 Ways to Stop Caring About What Others Think!

1. What people think of you is none of your business.

Keep in mind that people think of themselves more than they do about you. You’ll never be criticized by someone who is doing better than you. You’ll always be criticized by people who are doing less than you. It’s important to have mentors to help you along the way, but be cautious of other people’s input on your choices. Where is it coming from?

2. What people think of you is a reflection of themselves.

Let that sink in. People’s opinions are simply their vocalized insecurities. Don’t take it personally because even when they are critiquing you, they are actually just telling you about themselves. Hurt people hurt people.

3. Define your core values.

If you’re anything like me, you may change yourself depending on who you are with because you want people to like you. People Pleaser much? Eventually, you come to a place where you don’t even know who you are anymore. Defining your values is a critical step. Let people think you are cringe because you know what truly matters and their opinion isn’t one of them!

4. Remember the big picture.

Sometimes we get so busy in life that we become laser-focused and forget our Why. It’s crucial to take a step back every now and then and ask yourself Why am I doing what I’m doing? When I get anxious or scared to do something, I like to tell myself that “My dreams are bigger than my fears!”

5. We are all going to die anyway!

This sounds morbid, but it’s so true. Why do we care what people think when we’re all going to die anyway? Do what makes you happy and stop letting people dictate your future and happiness. Let people think you are cringe!

Growth Over Perfection

It’s important to remember that life is not about perfection. Life is about growth and continuing to improve every day. In order to be great at anything, you have to start somewhere. If you don’t start, you’ll never even have the chance to be good at whatever it is that you want to do. Our expectations for ourselves are so much higher than our expectations for others. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing- high expectations are great. But what isn’t great is not giving yourselves room to fail and letting others stop you from doing what you want. Failure can be a big learning moment.

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Hey ladies! We all know that life can be draining at times, especially as women. We are expected to do so many different things while being full of energy. One day you may be super productive while the next you feel like you can’t even get out of bed. Tired is an understatement. What if I told you there’s a way to improve your energy management while learning more about yourself? Come along as we learn the value of discovering human design.

On this week’s podcast I sat down with a respected Human Design guide and mentor, Michelle (@yourhumandesigncoach) to talk about all things human design and help you learn more about yourselves. But before we get started…

What is Human Design?

Think of it as a blueprint to your energy or a mix of astrology and Myers Briggs. It’s basically a map to understand your genetic nature. Understanding Human Design can help you become more energetically efficient so that you can stop burning out! Sounds great, right?!

Human Design Types

As with personalities, there are different types of Human Design as well. Human Design can be broken down into 5 different types:, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, Manifestors, and Reflectors. 

Generators

• 31% of the population.
• Known as energetic and quick to respond to problems.
• Consistent energy. Less burnout.

Manifesting Generators

• 37% of the population. 
• A lot of energy. Feels all over the place.
• Finds joy in trying new things.

Projectors

• 22% of the population.
• Loves to learn.
• Inconsistent energy levels.

Manifestors

• 9% of the population.
• Takes anything from your internal world and brings it out into your external world.
• Happiest when on their own making a difference

Reflectors

• 1% of the population.
• Good at reading the room energetically and knowing how people are feeling.
• Energy is sporadic so they struggle with consistency.

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Hello. Beautiful. Welcome back to the Empire Builder Podcast. I’m your host, Jordan English. And this is an episode that I’ve been wanting to do probably since I started my podcast, but I just couldn’t find the words. Okay. So today’s podcast episode 109 is all about money mindset, and I titled it: Is your money mindset, the root of your self sabotage? Boom.

I’ve been doing personal development for awhile. Okay. Like a couple of years probably like three or four years.. And whenever this idea of like money mindset, abundance versus scarcity, all these things came in, it rocked my world.

Because I thought there was only if you made 50 grand a year and had benefits and life insurance, I thought you were made in the shade, drinkin’ lemonade. And I thought if you made over a hundred thousand dollars that you were rich. And I then listened to episode of the Mommy Millionaire Podcast by Cayla Craft.

I talk about her a lot, this podcast because she’s amazing. But I was listening to her podcast episode and it she said “if you can’t write me a check for $11,000 right now, you need to get your crap together. And I was like, whoa, oh my God. I can’t write a check for $11,000 right now.

This is three or four years ago. I was thinking, I don’t have that. I don’t have cash. I don’t have that. Oh my gosh. So I told Bo (my husband) we gotta get it together. Okay? We gotta get it together. And then I joined her mastermind and that’s a whole other story, but I’ve been wanting to do this podcast for a while, because money, I feel is such a sensitive topic in guys.

Like you are my podcast listener. You get like a different version of me on this podcast. And I share more on here than Instagram and social media, because I feel like we’re like girlfriends. If you’re taking the time out of your day to listen to this podcast, like you want to learn something you are here, you’re buckled up.

You’re ready to learn and you’re ready to get into the nitty gritty. And you want to hear it? You want to hear the hard stuff? Okay. So I’m going to share some stuff I’m gonna share some figures. It is not for. Which is so funny that I’m even going to say this, but it’s not for boasting. It’s not for anything other than figures.

Okay. Just to give you perspective. Okay. And that’s so funny that we’re going to talk about this in the book today. The reason why I’m bringing up this book is called secrets of the millionaire mind, and the reason why. I am finally doing this episode is because all of the little, like one liners I’ve heard about money and like analogies I’m, I’ve just read this book.

I’m still reading it. And guys, I was like, oh my gosh, it’s all from this book. So if you have not read secrets of the millionaire, live mind by T Harv Eker, you need to get it right now, order it on Amazon and go to Books-A-Million and do whatever order it, buy it. So everything is in this book and it’s so funny that I was like, I just not braggy.

Like I’m about to blow up your money mindset. Okay guys. All right. And also guys, before I dive in to what we’re going to chat about today Facebook and Instagram are down and today, which feels so weird. I feel like I lost contact with the outside of. I really feel like that’s what’s happening.

I’m like, you know what? I want to make a podcast. That’s what we’re going to do today. So I can still reach out to. And guys, I just want to like nail this in the coffin for you is you have to have a way to have your people on something other than social media. Whenever you are getting people on social media, like leads, you need to have them.

You need to capture them in a different platform. Okay. Like email marketing site, like MailChimp or active campaign. Whatever. And then you also need to have them in a text platform. Like project broadcast is what I like to use. There’s a thing called community. But they don’t work with network marketing company.

So that might not work for you if you’re listening to this and it we’re marketing. But you need guys you have got to get people off of those platforms. So on days like this, when there’s a flash sale in my company, there’s a flash sale and I can’t even post about it because. All social media is down.

Okay. But take talks still work in Twitter, still working, but anything owned by Facebook is down. So all forms of communications with my teams are down. So I’m like what is happening? So that’s why if you are social media, mark. You need to have other platforms besides just one. Okay. You need to have a LinkedIn Tech-Talk Twitter, podcasts, text campaign, you need to be Omni present.

So if one of these things go down, you still have a way to communicate with your audience. Okay. That was my little 2 cents. Also if Facebook is back up by Wednesday, I am going to be teaching a class on how to create a link in bio that. This is a part of my empire builder society. So if you have not joined the society yet, come on in, I’m still doing the offer of join for $1, and that is $50 a month after 30 days.

So you get Trial for 30 days for just $1. And then if you love it, you can keep continue to be a part of the society. On Wednesday I’m going to be teaching that class of how to create that link and bio that way you can capture these people and get them to a different platform.

Okay. So let’s talk about money, mindset. Whenever I started opening this book, it was, and you’ll hear me turning pages. I’m just going to read you like some of the stuff from it, because it’s just great guys. I, whenever I started reading this, I was like, oh my gosh, but I want to talk about first, the process of manifestation.

Okay. And so this is how. Thoughts lead to feelings, lead to actions and actions lead to results. And it says your financial blueprint consists of a combination of your thoughts, feelings, actions in the arena of money. So how is your money blueprint forward? This answer is simple. The financial blueprint consists primarily of the information or programming you received in the past, especially as a child.

So basically guys, it’s talking about every single interaction you’ve ever had with money creates your financial blueprint. So I want you to think back to your parents, to how they. Did money, right? Where are they good with money where they loose with money. Didn’t like, and guys like growing up, I’ll just be honest.

Money was super tight. Okay. Like my parents would scream and yell at each other. I really hope they didn’t listen to this episode, but they every time they would it was like building. Like me and my brother. And we would hide in our rooms cause my parents would like literally scream at each other while they paid bills.

And that’s probably, it’s probably a TMI in there’s probably some shame around that. And I think that created like fear of money for me and that there was never going to be enough. And I heard things like money doesn’t grow on trees and it’s going to be tight this week because X, Y, and Z. And to this day, guys, I still have to like, have extensive conversations about money with my parents.

Because my mom if y’all are like into the Enneagram, my mom was Enneagram six, which their whole thing is fear. Okay. Fear. Like they are they have a plan, a, B, C, D E F G. They hope for the best, but they prepare for the worst. Thing that had to do with money was extra fearful for my parents, for my mom.

And of course you guys, like whenever I’m talking about this, everyone has their own money blueprint. So my mom and my dad had different money blueprints. And if you and your spouse have different money blueprints, that can cause a ton of fights. And that it talks about that in this book is if so the author of this book, he said that his money blueprint.

Every dollar that came in or that was extra, he was saving it for their future. And his wife had a different money blueprint. His wife like enjoyed spending money. That was her pleasure. It was like instant gratification to her because when she was little, if she got money, she could go get ice cream or she could go buy a toy or whatever.

And whenever they would S whenever the wife would spend money and then the husband would get onto her. He was in his mind, she was like wasting their future. She was like spending their future money and it was like wasting away. And if he would get mad at her, she would feel like he didn’t want her to have pleasure.

He didn’t want her to be happy. So those are like a major conflicting money. And guys I’ll be honest. Me and my husband, we, we don’t fight about money, but we definitely have different perspectives because I have done a lot of this money mindset work and he hasn’t, and he still has a lot of.

Scarcity. And he thinks when I talk about abundance, I’m just like rainbows and unicorns and I’m not logical. And it talks about that in this book too, about emotions and logic and how emotions when every time when it comes to money. And I’ll give you an example. We went to the Virginia. And we were on this amazing, beautiful trip.

We were on a boat. We did like a whole boat day and there was a float up taco bar. Y’all talk about my dream come true. Okay. I’m like there is a taco truck floating. In a tropical paradise and they like float out margaritas to me and tacos, like what? So we go, we do the taco thing and of course they have merged.

I’m like, oh my gosh, I got to get a hat. I got to get a t-shirt. I got to get old things. And. Bo. I was like, Bo do you want to have you want it? And he was like no, I’m good. I’m good. And so whenever we got back home, a few days later, I was like, I’m so excited about my hat and my t-shirt.

And I was like, oh man, I wish I woulda got this other hat too, or this other t-shirt because our boat charter had their own lurch to and they were like those cool, like slicky fishing t-shirts and he was like I knew I wanted to get a shirt. So I, I didn’t get a hat. I’m like, dude, the hat was like 30.

Like, why didn’t you get a hat? He was like you were getting hat and I wanted you to have a hat. And so I didn’t get, so in my mind, I’m like in the grand scheme of things, it’s a hat and it’s $30. Okay. $30 is not that much. All right. It’s a hap like if you wanted the hat, why didn’t you get a hat?

And in his mind he was in that scarce mindset and that lack mindset thinking of oh, Jordan’s already spinning, she’s buying a hat, she’s buying a shirt. And I know I want to get a shirt later. So I’m just not going to spend that $30. So that’s and he was like we just have different.

And I was like, this is so dumb. I was like, it’s just 30 bucks, so we’ve had conversations like that. Not necessarily fight, but like a disagreement. Okay. So here’s another wealth principle from the book. When the subconscious mind must choose between deeply rooted emotions and logic, emotions will almost always win.

And for me, I think for women that’s like even more true because like my emotions in that moment where this is such a fantastic memory of being in. Tropical place. If my friends it’s beautiful, like it’s a dream come true to have a taco floating truck thing. And I want to capture this memory by having a hat and a t-shirt.

So in that moment, my emotions were super high and Bo was being super logical. And so emotions always. But I wanted to talk to you guys about a few other things in this book, and you’ll hear me flipping pages because I don’t want to mess it up. I don’t want to mess it up. Here’s another one.

If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a non-supportive route, such as fear, anger, or the need to prove yourself are money will never bring you happy. I’m going to say that one more time. If you were motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a non-supportive route, such as fear, anger, or the need to prove yourself, your money will never bring you happiness guys.

I’ve had motivation for money from all of those things. Fear when I was fearful that I couldn’t provide for my daughter as a single mom. Anger, so angry that I didn’t have a way to provide for my daughter by myself. The need to prove myself was probably the biggest one for me, because I had all these I was going to give it to y’all straight.

Okay. If y’all are, if you okay. I just want to say it like it is y’all and you can come at me if you want to. But I don’t hold space for negativity or, I don’t have space for like people coming at me, but I’m just going to say it like it is. And I hope y’all love me for it. And if you do, please screenshot this and share it on your Instagram and be like, Jordan, you rock and just give, cause my love language is words of affirmation.

So if you could just give me, like I listened to this episode and I’m so glad you’re so vulnerable. So I grew up in, if you don’t know me I grew up in a small town in Alabama and I got pregnant as a teenager. And twice I got pregnant twice, actually three times is a bunch of times anyways. Everyone was like, basically oh, you ruined your life.

Oh you’re not going to go to college. You’re not going to amount to anything. And whenever I would turn in to be a single mom and I moved back home and I would go to like bridal showers or whatever. There’s the snotty old money. Women that have I don’t know, crystal everywhere and in anyways.

And they’re like, how has it been being back home with your mom and dad? Are you doing okay? That must be really tough. And I was like, oh, it would make me so angry. All so deep in my core angry. And I was like actually I’m getting my accounting degree and I did it, and I would just fill this need to overcompensate.

And I was like, you know what? Stick it to them. I’m going to show them, and I’m sure all of you have had that moment in your life where I’m going to show you, I’m going to prove myself. I’m going to prove you wrong. And maybe that’s like in your network marketing business, maybe, someone’s oh, that’s a pyramid scheme.

That’s so dumb. And you’re like, oh, I’m going to prove her wrong. I’m going to prove him wrong, whatever. And. Guys, whenever you finally do become successful, even if, and being successful in that mindset is really difficult and longer. And we’ll talk about that in a minute, but even if you do find some success, that money is still not going to make you happy because it’s coming from a non-supportive route.

Okay. And. I just, it didn’t click that for me until we were finally in a financial position to breathe, like from real estate income. Like we got to this point where I was like, oh my gosh we’re not like, trying to dig ourselves out of a hole. We can actually breathe and buy stuff and eat out without pinching pennies.

And we went from surviving to thriving and I was like, I had no idea how to get motivated. So maybe you’re still stuck in that season of like fear, anger. I got to prove myself, but one day you’re not going to be, and you’re going to be like, oh what do I do now? Like how do I motivate myself now since there’s no fear since there’s no scarcity.

And it’s really, it’s a really interesting feeling. Let me see. I was trying to flip to the next one. So the next thing that I wanted to talk about is the self-sabotage, how I named this podcast. And I really do feel like your money blueprint is the root of your self-sabotage. It may be something else for me, it was like, and it might be like an onion, you got to peel back the layers.

It might be failure layered. For me it was a bunch of things. It was like forgiving myself, but I do think a huge part of the self-sabotage is this money mindset and the money blueprint. And I’m going to read this to you and then I’ll go over it. The only way to permanently change the temperature in the room is to reset the thermostat in the same way.

The only way to change your level of financial success. Permanently is to reset your financial thermostat. Okay. So what is talking about here is. And I’ll read this to you too, because it makes a lot of sense, says most people believe that the success of their business is primarily dependent on their business skills and knowledge, or at least their timing of the marketplace.

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but that’s LA land, which is another way of saying not a chance how well your business does as a result of your money blueprint. You will always validate your. If you have a blueprint that is set for earning a hundred thousand dollars a year, that is exactly how well the business will do enough to earn you about a hundred thousand dollars a year.

If you’re a salesperson, your blueprint is set for earning $50,000 a year. And somehow you make a huge sale that makes you $90,000 that year either the cell will cancel, or you will end up with $90,000, get ready for coming year to follow, to make up for it and bring you back down to the level of your financial needs.

On the other hand, if you’re set for earning 50,000 and you’ve been in a slump for a couple of years, don’t worry. You’ll get back, you’ll get it all back. You have to, it’s a subconscious level of the mind and money. Someone in this position will probably walk across the street and get hit by a bus and end up with exactly $50,000 a year in insurance.

It’s simple one way or another. If you’re set for $50,000 a year, eventually, that’s what. So again, how can you tell what your money blueprint is for? One of the most obvious ways is to look at your results. Look at your bank account, look at your income. Look at your net worth. Look at your success and investments.

Look at your business success. Look at whether you’re a spender or a saver. Look at whether you manage money. Look at how consistent or inconsistent you are. Look at how hard you work for you. And look at your relationships that involve money. Is money a struggle or does it come to you easily? Do you own a business or do you have a job?

Do you stick with one business or a job just long enough? Or do you jump around a lot? Your blueprint is like a thermostat. How good is that? Oh my gosh. So I’ve heard

that

thermostat analogy so many times, and it did not click until I read this book. Y’all. For real. I was like, what? So think about it. If you’re set to like, if your money blueprint is okay, if I make 50 grand a year, we’re going to be doing great.

So what you’re going to do is you’re going to hustle. You’re going to hustle and you’re going to hustle and you’re going to get to that 50 grand. And once you hit that 50 game Grammy man, I made it and then you’re going to cool yourself off and then it’s going to go back down and then it’d be like, oh crap.

I gotta get, I gotta make 50 grants and I ain’t gonna hustle. And you’re going to get back up to that 50 grand, right? How do you reprogram your mind to raise your thermostat? Okay. To raise it because we don’t want to self-sabotage around here y’all we want to grow and grow. And if you had not heard that money money thermostat analogy let me know.

Another one is consciousness as observing your thoughts and actions so that you can. From true choice in the present moment, rather than run by programming from the past. Oh, so good. So good. So guys, like I we’ve had such a journey with money. One of the most profound moments in my life about money was when Bo and I weren’t married yet, but we had moved.

I think we’re either like we had just had been, or we were about to happen to been who is four now. And we had just started, I just started working with him and real estate. And I was like a budget queen. Y’all I have an accounting degree. I can, I’m a spreadsheet queen. Like I can budget like no other.

And I can stick to it because I had to also, I was like a master manipulator of bills. Okay. So I could stagger bills in such a way that I would never get a late fee. I would move my due dates around so I could like, basically. Wait just long enough to get another paycheck. So whenever I was working before I went back to college, I was making like $1,800 a month.

So I think after like bonuses and stuff, I was making like $28,000. $28,000 a year. Okay. And that’s why I had to go back to school. There was no way that I could provide for me in Avery with $28,000 a year, no freaking way. Like I did the mat. So then I went back to school and I moved back in with my parents and I started pocketing all that income and I got a scholarship.

I went to school and then I took out a student loan for $10,000. And then I took out another student loan for another $10,000 not to pay for school, but to pay for my housing allowance or to pay for like room and board, at an apartment because I couldn’t stand to live in a small town and drive an hour each way every single day.

And I was like, I’ll just pay this off one day. Everybody has student loans. I would just pay it off one day. And guys, I. Whenever I’m like, y’all, I’ve been on food stamps. I’ve been on Medicaid. I had, we had a car. It wasn’t my car. It was my other person’s car. It got repossessed. My credit score, which I’ve talked about this on the podcast before my credit score was I think like a four 15.

I didn’t even knew it. I didn’t even know what credit was and it was a four 15 because my X person, when. I don’t even know what to call the person. Okay. So I just X person, whatever. They went out to every single car dealership in Pensacola, Florida, and used my social security number to see if they could get a car loan.

I have a 37 inquiries on my credit report. None of them were me. None of them. So it was really bad. I had a really bad money mindset, thinking back to my parents fighting about money. And then I had this low credit score. I had no income. I was on food stamps, Medicaid, and then I get my.

And I’m doing an internship at an accounting firm and they kinda were like, how much money would you like to make, or how much would you need to make? Cause I guess they were like grooming me to hire me full time. And I, I saw everyone’s tax returns and I just remember, I was like adding everything up, for me and Avery for an apartment and a car payment and insurance and groceries.

And. Some clothes and diapers and she was done with formula by then, like normal stuff guys, like I wasn’t like trying to buy a Gucci purse or anything or a Gucci belt. I was just like normal expenses. Okay. I needed to make 55, 50 $6,000 a year to. Okay. And to be comfortable, to be able to go to target and buy an outfit here and there. Okay. Like not anything extravagant. And I saw these people’s tax returns and they were making about that much. And they were certified public accountants. They were working their asses off, like literally taking like. Like a whole stack of files home every single night.

And they were just killing themselves during tax season. Okay. And we were only making 50 grand. I was like, I just saw my life flash before my eyes. And I was like, oh my God, I cannot do this. I cannot do this. Can’t do it. So I went and got a corporate accounting internship cause I was like, okay, I’ll get to work downtown.

This is going to be fancy. At least I’ll feel like. Fancier, like I’ll get to drive downtown and look at the water. Cause like the big places on the water. And then I watched people. Again, making 50, maybe 40 to $50,000 a year. And there were like fighting for promotions. I was like, what?

This is crazy. This is crazy. And then in that same time, I got pregnant with Benjamin. So like they weren’t gonna have. I thought that they would cause I was like delusional, but they didn’t, they found other people and I never got a job anywhere else because I was pregnant. So Bo my husband was like, Hey, why don’t you come work with me?

And I was like, what? I can’t like, I’ve worked so hard to be independent. Okay. I’ve worked so hard for. To be independent, be able to provide for me and Avery by myself. That was so important that I was able to do that. It was so much of a pride thing. And then I was like, all right, whatever. So I still had some income.

I had some money saved up. And so I went to work for Bo and it was, we were going to buy a house and. He just wasn’t making that much money because he was in real estate and he just really hadn’t had that much luck and he had just moved back to Pensacola anyway. So he was only selling like 15, 10, 15 houses a year.

And then I was like, look we’re together. We have a house and now we have two kids and, we gotta make money, we gotta make money. So I’m leading up to the prof profound moment. We just bought this house like a little first-time home. It was so cute. I love that house. First time home, we buy it and move in.

I’m buying groceries and we’re just like, we only have X amount of money. Okay. I don’t even remember how much it was, but we only had X amount and we were like living closing the closing. Whenever you’re a real estate agent, you don’t get paid until the house closed. And so we were having a wait from closing the closing and stretch that money to pay for taxes and photography and all these things on top of our, our regular bills and daycare and all these things.

And. I like Bo just like the, so obsessed with buying healthy food. And I had never bought healthy food in my life. Y’all I was like, I could go to the grocery store with a hundred bucks and be good for a couple of weeks. And it was just not that way with Bo he like one of the, by like the bougie food from like the co-op grocery store.

And everything was already gained. Even the Mac and cheese, I was like, dude what is it like there’s too expensive. We can’t do this. I was like, we have to, we like, we have to budget. Like you can’t spend this much money. We were having this conversation. I was like, we can’t spend that much at the grocery store.

We just can’t. And we can’t eat out all this. Like we’re eating out all the time. I was like, we’re spending too much money. And he just looked at me and he was like, no, we need to make more money. And I don’t know why it was just so simple, but there was the first time in my life that I realized that we could just make however much money we wanted to make.

Like we had that ability. We were business owners, we were in real estate and I was just like, What, I don’t know if you’ve ever had that moment or if you’ve owned your business or hopefully if you’re listening this, you own some kind of a business, but it was like, oh, we could just sell more houses. How do we do that?

And so we reverse engineered it and we’re like, okay, if we want to make, what if we want to make 200,000 whatever we want to make, like to fit. What could we do then? Y’all my mind was frickin blown. Okay. I did not know it just, it had never occurred to me before that we could just sell more houses, like we could just make more money and I wonder how many of y’all have not had that moment yet where you’re like, oh, I could just sell more champagne.

Oh, I can just learn a new skill and do this. Or I could reprogram my money mindset to, to function off of a hundred thousand dollars instead of 50. And I don’t guys, that was such a pivotal moment in my life. And you know what we did, we went from so Benjamin was born in 2017. And I don’t know how many houses we sold that year.

I would have to pull it up, but in 2018 we sold 71 homes. Okay. And you can do the math 71 homes. And, average commission two and a half to three and a half percent on average home price in Pensacola. At that time, it was like two, 10 or two 30 or something like that. Gus 71, we went from 10, 15 homes.

That was at Bose average before, before Jordan to 71 homes. Okay. It’s ridiculous. It is insanity. Okay. And then 2019 happened and we got too big for. And you know what happened? We lost it. Okay. We didn’t lose it SB and traumatic but what happened was our blueprint didn’t match the success that we had created for ourselves.

And guys, I’m just realizing this as I’m telling you this right now. So this is a bit, this is not a planned episode. This is like me off the cuff on the fly. I am like having this realization. So whenever in 2018, we saw those houses in 2019 is when crap hit the fan. We, we’re growing so fast and we’re like, oh my gosh, we can’t handle this success at this speed.

We’re gonna need help. So what did we do? We went to a conference to learn how to hire an assistant. We hired an assistant, we added a buyer’s agent. We added another buyer’s agent, and then I took a step back in 2019. To start a podcast to start my business. Cause I was like, we’ve got it remade in the shade.

Like guys, we were spending so much money. Like we are going on trip after trip, we had this beautiful office space in downtown Pensacola that we were paying for all these people. And it was like me Bo I’m an assistant in two buyer’s agents. We were paying for all this office. And we were in like photography and just like marketing.

And we were doing videos for Facebook and Instagram, and we were paying like a videographer for all this stuff, thinking that all of that would bring us when it helped us scale our business into more income. But our money blueprint kicked in and guess what happened? We realize that our assistant was not a good fit.

So I fired her. And then a couple of days later, one of our buyer’s agents quit because she was going to move to. Back to her hometown. And then a few days later, our other spy, the, our other buyer’s agent, which is my brother who is absolutely amazing at real estate. They were going to have another baby and moved back home to where we grew up to be closer to mom’s.

And in the, literally the span of two weeks, we went from a team of five to Mateen back down to just me and Bo. And I was like, what the heck just happened? Now, mind you, here’s the other thing that happened during this time, we had such explosive growth in 2018 that in 2019. We had so much taxes to pay off.

So w like we did not even know, like we were not paying enough throughout the year to accommodate the amount of revenue that we had for our business. So in 2019, not only that our income go down, but also we were still paying on the taxes from the year before. Okay. And so every single that summer of 20.

19, every single paycheck that came in, went right back out to the IRS like that summer until we got it paid off. And also I had joined a mastermind that costs as much as our mortgage every month. And then I bought a course that was $10,000. And we were just spinning and spinning and spinning, but we are that what happened was our money blueprint kicked in and brought us back down to normal level.

And then 2020 happened and you all know what happened with that, but we started great in 2020. We’re like, this is our best first month in the year ever. Like we’re gonna be getting great. Like we be paid off for Texas early. Like we were catching. And then all of that happened, but this year it’s going great.

Because I think what really happened was we grew too fast and our money blueprint hadn’t expanded to our, the success that we had. So we subconsciously brought it back down. But making all these crazy decisions. And then now that we have grown as a couple as business owners as just like people, we are slowly bringing everything back up.

Okay. So I just wanted to, that was super vulnerable for me to share. I just want you guys to know what really happens behind the scenes. Like people go through things, people lose money, people take risks and it doesn’t work out and. You don’t know what’s going to happen until you take that risk.

So I wanted to share that little story with you, but our money blueprints coming back up and let’s see. Here’s one that I just wanted to so it has like this whole section about victims. Okay. Victim clue. Number one. When it comes to why they’re not rich, most victims are professionals at the blame game.

The objection of this game is to see how many people in circumstances you can point the finger to without ever looking at yourself. It’s fun for victims, at least. Unfortunately, it’s not a blast for anyone else who has unlucky enough to be around them. This is because those in close proximity to victims become easy targets.

Okay. Then the next victim CLU. Let’s see victim claim. Number two is justifying and victims. Aren’t blaming you’ll often find them justifying or rationalizing their situation by saying something like money is not really important. Let me ask you this question. If you said that your husband or your wife, or your boyfriend or girlfriend, or your partner.

We’re all that important. Would any of them be around for long? I don’t think so. So needs are with money. Money is extremely important in the areas, in which it works and extremely unimportant in the areas, which it does it. Then victim clean number three, complaining. When you were complaining, you were becoming a living, breathing crap magnet.

So basically what that’s saying is once you focus on expands, so if you’re focusing on your lack, you’re going to have more lack. Okay. If you’re focusing on abundance, you’re going to have more of a. And then let’s see if are enjoying this episode. It’s just I just wanted to really go over this book with you.

If your goal is to be comfortable, chances are, you’ll never get rich. But if your goal is to be rich, chances are you’ll end up mighty uncomfortable or it might a mighty, okay. I messed up. If your goal is to be comfortable, chances are you’ll never get rich. But if your goal is to be rich, chances are you’ll end up mighty comfortable.

So basically it’s saying you have to get uncomfortable to do rich, to be rich. The number one reason why most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want. This is something that’s been really popping up lately for my team, for my money 18. Okay. They just, they’ve never really sat down to create that vision that they want for their life.

And if you’re in network marketing, I really encourage you to take time to vision cast what you want for your life, what rank you want to be, what income that rank brings, who is the person that deserves that rank and how does that work out? What kind of, and I actually, we did this at a conference but when I did.

And it was like write down the version of yourself five years from now. Or you can even take a, do one year. So in one year I’ll be 29 years old. Why do I want my life to look like in five years? What do I want my life to look like in 10 years? But I want my life to look like. And then things that pop up guys are like really superficial.

Like I want to be wearing, maybe this is what I wrote down a couple of years ago. I want to be wearing like, made well jeans. Cause it was my favorite jeans and they were like pricing. I want to have a nice car. I want to have a big house. I want to have a Gucci belt. I still don’t have a Gucci belt.

Y’all I just can’t spend $400 on a belt and I need to work on that. My money blueprint. But it’s like, what do you want your life to look like? But now when I do this, I see just freedom to straight up freedom to be wherever we want to be doing whatever we want to be doing. And that includes my husband too.

So really sit down and think what do you want your life to look like and play around with it? And it’s do I homeschool my kids? Do I, are we in an RV traveling the country? Aren’t we travel bloggers? What do you want to do? And think about how you want to get there. If you were not fully, totally in truly committed to creating wealth, chances are you won’t so you really need to focus on it.

Okay. And the loss of income, you will be paid in direct proportion to the value delivered according to the marketplace. That’s a good one. And the last one that I’ll leave you with these are super good. If you say you’re worthy, you are, if you say you’re not ready, you’re not either way you will live in your story.

And then where attention goes, energy flows and results will show. So this month it’s early in the month, guys, if you are focused on, like I just don’t have people in my team that are working, I just don’t know how I’m going to rank up. I just don’t know where that people are going to come from.

That’s or you’re just stuck in that money mindset that you’re just not going to rank up. It’s going to be true. It’s going to be, you’re not going to rank up. Oh, I’ll just wait until next month. You’re going to be saying that for the rest of your life. Okay. I’ll just wait. I’ll just wait till next month.

There’s going to be my month. Y’all next month is going to be my mom. And you’re just going to be saying that forever. Okay. You have to make the decision to do it. You have to change your language. You have to change the way that you speak to yourself, the way that you believe. And you have to start saying things that feel weird.

I attract abundance. Don’t say things that aren’t true. Like I’m not going to say I’m a millionaire because I’m not but say things that are like, I am a market partner magnet. I’m a VIP magnet. I attract. Amazing ambitious women to my team. I you can say all kinds of things, but I want you to understand that you have to change.

Invisible to change what is visible. Okay. You have to change the inside of you. That’s why personal development is so important, and that’s why you have to work on your money mindset and your money blueprint. So if you love this episode, guys, I know it was sporadic and all over the place, but I just, I really wanted to share those thoughts with you from this book again, order it.

It is secrets of the millionaire mind by T Harv Eker. So good. I’m still reading through it, but I really got, I really want you to like it. It’s not, I just don’t want to talk about Instagram all the time. Especially today when it’s down. But I want you guys to know that it’s not just a skills that you learn.

It’s not just how to create a link in your bio or how to do whatever you have to grow your inside and you have to grow your mindset. Or you’re just going to be working. And you’re not going to get the results that you want deep down in your heart. So I hope you love this episode today. I hope that you will get this book.

I hope that you will start to focus on your money mindset and expand and turn up that thermostat real friend, because you are worthy of everything that you desire in this life. I love you and I hope you have an amazing day and I’ll see you on the next episode.